Men dedicated to the childfree lifestyle should stop their search at the “Not sure” option.Ladies, here’s a secret for you – expand your search to include men who check “Someday.” Most men who check that option mean “Someday, if my wife wants them.” They want what you want, and if you want no kids, most of them would be perfectly fine with that. “But sometimes she reminds me that her mom is just fine without me!I am a professional man in my 40’s and I have decided a while ago that I do not want to have kids. Some people will find this selfish but I have seen enough of my friends with kids who struggle to pay the bills, find a suitable apartment and in general lead pretty hectic lives while having zero time for themselves. If you didn’t have kids, how could you possibly understand the ins and outs of raising children? And, as you know, I am now married to a man who did not have any kids. ) So, when I recently heard from a man who’s dating a single mom, I paused because the story sounded similar to mine. She wants him to be a part of their lives, “but she uses the phrase ‘baby steps’ a lot, which says to me… And I don’t want to leave, so I guess I’m resigned to giving the relationship more time.” If you’re a single mom, have you ever dated a man without kids? If you’re a single guy (I know that some of you DO read this blog!
The men also treated her as less able to make a commitment because she was not a mother and didn’t wish to become one.
I constantly get sent matches for people who I am sure are great but have kids.
I don’t even consider these matches and I instantly delete them.
Decide whether you want better quality matches or more matches.
Then select your choice under “Wants Kids” accordingly.