One, that younger women are no longer interested in dating men who are even just slightly (3-5 years) older than them and sometimes want to date men 5-10 years younger then them. Alas, the women with whom he wants to get serious are 27-34.
These women are youthful and find themselves far more attracted to men in their 30’s than their 40’s. You say you’re looking for a woman in her mid-30’s. But if none of them are looking for you, your wheelhouse is going to be women in their late 30’s to early 40’s: Find the people who want you.It’s the same exact advice I give to women in their early 40’s who want men in their early 40’s…except men in their early 40’s want women in their 30’s. I’m being a bit unfair, Adam, because there IS a market for a 42-year-old man – and you can certainly be doing better than you’re currently doing. I’m looking for a LTR but with that said I’ m not willing to settle. Pick up a copy of Finding The One Online and it should make a difference. But the bigger takeaway is that ALL of us are very judgmental on age. To a 42-year-old man who wants his own biological children, anything above 36 is getting into risky territory. I’m a 37 year old woman and have online dated off and on over the years. I would date a 42 year old, not a problem, but as you say, men in their 40’s are looking for women who are in the 27-34 year old bracket. Men who have waited to have kids or who had kids with their first wife but perhaps not as many as they would have liked, are looking for a fertile woman.You could be "Fertile Myrtle" and they might not know it simply because you're over 35 and they didn't bother to ask because you didn't fit the criteria.Dating in your late 30s (especially if you are dating after divorce with kids like me) is sort of like sifting through a garbage can, hoping to find a huge diamond and a pair of Manolo Blahniks.I don't mean to say that every available man is worthless when you're in your late 30s but rather that the game is hard, and guess what, ladies: it's still a game, even at our age.Instead of forcing yourself to settle for someone who isn’t right for you, your 20s are the perfect time to seek out someone whom you know you’ll be ready to share the rest of your life with.OK to be fair, that doesn’t mean you won’t meet weird people out there…but getting online to date now is much more acceptable.Thus, their target market remains women, 27-34 – who may not be ready to settle down quite yet.These women still have money to make, places to travel and oats to sow.